Shy Single

Q1. I'm a shy single woman, a `loner' type. Men tell me I'm attractive but I find reaching out to people very difficult.
I find myself more and more avoiding people and going out which I know is very unhealthy as I'm only in my early 20s and I would like a normal family life one day. Any suggestions?

A. Again, your story is not unusual. If you're naturally shy and not good socially, it's gets more and more difficult to break the cycle.

Unfortunately, there's nothing to do but to go for it. The more you get in there and try, the easier it becomes. At first, you might only be able to take yourself to a party or pub but then gradually, you'll talk to people and soon, you'll get used to this and might even meet someone special.

The important thing is to be open to life's opportunities. Kissing frogs is a good place to start as it contains a whole bunch of different ideas for social exploration. Go where you feel safe as that will build up your confidence bit by bit.

Remember there are lots of people in the same boat as you and you're never going to meet them by letting your fear get in the way. Check out some courses in confidence and social skills before you venture out if you feel really blocked.

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