Relationship Stalemate

Q. I’ve been in a relationship for 4 years but it doesn’t seem to be going anywhere. The feelings have deepened but my partner seems no closer to wanting us to move in together or perhaps get married one day. We’ve talked around it endlessly but I’m left with the sure knowledge that he likes things as they are and doesn’t want to change. Am I being unreasonable?

A. You may benefit from some couples counselling as it’s often easier to sort out apparent stalemates when there’s an impartial third party.
Other than that, you’ve basically got to decide if you are satisfied with this relationship as it is. If he’s perfectly happy and you’re not, there may be no simple solution. You’ve probably talked enough for now and it’s really crunch time. Tell this guy how you feel and make it clear you can’t settle for the current situation. If there’s still no movement, only you can decide whether to stay or leave.

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