Married & Bored

I am 20 years old and have been married for two years. I love my husband very much, but during this two years that we've been married, I find him very boring because he never goes out with me or take me anywhere to have fun and when I ask him to go out, he says no.

I've asked him many times why he doesn't like to go out and I also asked him if it's because he doesn't love me, but he says no. He says he just doesn't like to go out.

Also when he comes home from work straightaway he goes to play computer games until he goes to bed. I really don't know what to do with him and I don't want to leave him because I love him. Would you please help me and give me some advice?

This man has not yet adjusted to married life. He's still behaving like a single man. If you're already bored after two years, what will it be like in the distant future?

You need to explain to him that a marriage is about two people and therefore, about compromise. Going out all the time is not good but neither is stayimng home constantly either.

Rather than just go on complaining, why don't you make a definite suggestion, for instance, a particular day in the week, you could go to the movies or dinner or even just a walk. Marriage is about companionship and at present, you're not getting any. If you don't take a firm stand on this matter now, things can only get worse. Your husband is not going to turn into a party boy but he does need to try.

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