High School Crush

A girl whom I attended school with came up to me at a party and told she’d had a crush on me since the first day she saw me and so we started to date. Should I find it odd that she took so long to tell me? Why not in high school? She has started to say she loves me already and I find this a little strange. What’s your opinion?

She may simply have been too shy in high school to tell you. Now, two years later, she may have matured enough to come straight out with it. I actually admire her courage as it’s pretty hard to be that straightforward. What’s your main concern? That she’s making it up? That she’s leading you on? I really can’t see what she has to gain.

As for saying she loves you, I must admit I’m very wary of people saying this too soon, but not everyone’s the same. Some people are more instinctive and others are obviously more cautious and conservative which is fine. You don’t actually say what YOU feel. That’s fairly important in this equation, don’t you think? I’ll say the same thing as I usually do with this type of question - trust your instincts. If it feels right deep inside, it probably is. Anyway, you’re very young. You don’t have to think about a serious commitment yet. Why not just enjoy dating and tell this girl you aren’t prepared to say you love her until you really feel it. And if it doesn’t happen, be truthful and caring and you can’t go wrong.

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