I wanted to see if you could help me. I have just come out of a break-up with the guy who I was ready to spend the rest of my life with. We have a 2 year old daughter. We were together for 5 years and everything was perfect but once our daughter came along, things went downhill a little but we sorted it all out. About 6 months ago, he started to do less for us, not make an effort to spend any time with us and always just wanted to go out with his friends to the pub or the footy or wherever.
In the end it caused too many fights and he moved out and that was the end of us. It's been a month now and I can't seem to do anything to make this easier. I miss him more each day and I would do anything for us to be a family again, but he has made it clear that he's happy with his life now and just wants to go out with his friends. I need to know where to start to help me along with this. I know I need to be strong for my little girl, but it's just so hard and seems like this will never end.
A/ Yes, you need to be strong for your little girl but you also need to be strong for yourself. Break-ups are very painful and there has to be a period of mourning. It's going to take time. It's quite normal after a child enters a marriage for the relationship to adjust and change but now, it's been 2 years and it hasn't recovered. Whether there's hope for the two of you in the future or not, right now, you're separated so try to use this time for your own personal growth. That way, you'll get stronger and more confident for any relationships you might enter in the future.
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