Helping Your Baby to Sleep: Why gentle techniques work best

Helping Your Baby to Sleep: Why gentle techniques work best

Time to end the distressing practice of ‘controlled crying’.

Every day new parents are being encouraged to ‘train’ their child to sleep - a practice in which they ignore their baby’s crying and distress. In a groundbreaking new book, Helping Your Baby to Sleep, Australian educators Anni Gethin and Beth Macgregor draw on international research into babies’ emotional and brain development to show that gentle sleep techniques are best for babies. By contrast, they argue that the popular ‘controlled crying’ approach can be detrimental for children and their parents.

They state: "The stories parents tell about controlled crying are often truly shocking. Many babies are suffering extreme distress over many nights; it is common for parents to say that their babies ‘scream hysterically’ and ‘cry so hard that they vomit". Even in the best case scenarios

  • where babies cry for relatively short periods
  • parents describe the process as ‘horrid’, ‘heartbreaking’ and ‘torture’.

    Controlled crying also frequently needs to be repeated once its initial effects wear off.

    "Babies are ill-equipped to cope with this amount of stress. The brain structures that help us cope with stress are built in the first years of life by sensitive and responsive parenting. This is why gentle sleep techniques are so important and why controlled crying can be so harmful for babies."

    "It is completely normal for babies to need help to get sleep, as the brain processes which allow them to go to sleep by themselves take time to develop. Leaving a baby alone and awake will often cause her primitive survival mechanisms to kick in, causing her to cry and scream for the safety of her parents."

    "It is also normal for babies to wake up at night. Despite what parents are often told, there is no magic age at which a baby should be sleeping through. In fact, like walking and talking, the age at which babies will naturally sleep through the night varies widely. This is thought to be because the brain mechanism which governs sleep matures at different ages for different children. "

    "Depriving a baby of parental care and contact at bedtime does not teach a baby independence; instead he learns that his parents cannot be relied upon to provide comfort and reassurance and so gives up calling for help. This is why controlled crying risks damaging the most important bond of all for a child - one that grows from being able to trust and depend on his parents."

    "We also recognise that parents can suffer from the sleep deprivation that comes with a very wakeful baby. This is why we offer advice on how to address problems which can increase wakefulness, and how parents can get muchneeded support."


    About the Authors:

    Anni Gethin is a health social scientist with special interests in early childhood development and health equity. She runs a research and planning consultancy, lectures in public health and social science, and is a mother of three boys.

    Beth Macgregor is a psychologist who trains health and welfare workers in infant mental health, child development and child protection. She has worked as a child protection caseworker, specialist and researcher, and is an active member of the Australian Association for Infant Mental Health. Her work as a specialist educator is devoted to creating happier children, families and societies. Beth is the mother of a delightful little boy.


    Helping Your Baby to Sleep: Why gentle techniques work best cover:
  • What are some of the gentle techniques you recommend for helping babies to sleep and what are the benefits of using these techniques for infants and their parents?
  • Why do some babies cry and wake repeatedly through the night?
  • Doesn’t ‘controlled crying’encourage babies to develop a sleep pattern and eventually learn to sleep independently through the night without waking?
  • What advice would you give to exhausted parents who are stressed and having difficulty settling their crying babies? What should they do if their baby won’t stop crying?
  • What are some of the myths about babies and sleep?
  • How can parents ensure they are responsive to their babies’ needs?
  • There are many supporters of the ‘controlled crying’ technique of sleep training. What does your research suggest about the physical and emotional risks of this technique for infants and their parents?
  • Having a new baby at home can be a stressful time for parents. What advice can you give them for taking care of themselves at this time?

    Reviews:

    "At last - an antidote to the current vogue for leaving babies to cry! Many parents have felt intuitively that this cannot be the way to deal with their infants but too often they are encouraged to ignore their feelings and to ignore baby’s distress signals as well." Prof. Carolyn Quadrio, School of Psychiatry, University of New South Wales.

    "This is a beautiful book, rich with empathy for babies and parents, and also practical and down-to-earth." Sheila Kitzinger, social anthropologist of birth, author of 24 books, including Understanding Your Crying Baby.

    "I can’t imagine any parent reading this informed, wise and powerfully argued book, and ever wanting to use controlled crying again." Steve Biddulph, author of The Secret of Happy Children, Raising Boys and other major parenting books.

    "Gethin and Macgregor’s work is an outstanding example of translating very recent advances in the developmental sciences into sensitive, empathic models of child rearing...I highly recommend this important book." Allan N Schore PhD, UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine, author of Affect Dysregulation and Disorders of the Self.

    "With so many resources available, the pressure to conform is very present. There is no absolute science to parenting, we can only be guided by the distress signals that our children express, Anni Gethin & Beth Macgregor will help you read those signals and determine what is best for your child and how to nuture your child into sleeping patterns." Michelle Warmuz, Femail.com.au - EditorHelping Your Baby to Sleep: Why gentle techniques work best
    Finch Publishing
    Authors: Anni Gethin and Beth Macgregor
    ISBN 9781876451752
    RRP: $24.95
    www.finch.com.au




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