-I'm sorry' are the two most important words in our language: when we have been hurt, we feel that only a genuine apology can rebuild a broken relationship and restore trust. But what makes a truly good apology? Why are some people unable to say sorry, while others apologize all the time? And do we always have to forgive those who hurt us?
In this joyful, sanity-saving guide to setting things right, the renowned psychologist and bestselling author Harriet Lerner answers these questions and more. Using compelling real-life stories and solid theory she explains, with humour and wit, the transformative power of making amends and the mindfulness we need to heal the damage we've inflicted (or suffered). In the process, we learn not only how to craft a meaningful apology, but also that forgiveness isn't the only path to peace of mind, and how we can resist the pressure to forgive too easily.
Dr Harriet Lerner is an internationally acclaimed relationship expert and author of many bestselling books, including the New York Times bestseller The Dance of Anger. Renowned for her work on the psychology of women and family relationships, she is a distinguished lecturer, consultant and psychotherapist, and has served as a staff psychologist at the Menninger Clinic for several decades. She and her husband live in Lawrence, Kansas and have two grown sons.
Why Won't You Apologize?
Author: Dr Harriet Lerner